Conscious Parenting is about inner work, and it is also about love and compassion – for myself and my children.
I don’t show up consciously all the time
I get reactive
I’m not playful
I don’t want to connect
I get attached to what i perceive right and leave no room for negotiation
I make mistakes and learn to forgive myself
There are “good” and “bad” moments
It’s a work in progress
Yet these values are a guiding light for me
And with time and patience, I am able to embody them more and more
These are also the values i bring into my work with parents because i know that they create strong loving joyful connections that we all want
1. Awareness
of my own state, emotions, and triggers
my children’s needs, interests, developmental stage
our environment
2. Connected Presence
holding space for everything that manifests
being with them without distractions (even 15 min a day)
leaning into connection
slowing down
3. Reflection
reflecting on what went well and what didn’t
how can I do things differently next time
being compassionate with myself and them
4. Responsibility
not blaming my children for my wounds
understanding that they are mirrors and imitate what I do (not what I say)
taking full responsibility for my self-care & healing, how I show up and the environment I create
5. Respect
they are whole wise beings who deserve love and respect
they are capable, curious, innately kind
they are learning and it takes time and patience
6. Loving Boundaries
in alignment with my true values (not false programming)
firm but flexible if there is room for negotiation
with respect and empathy to them and their emotional reaction
7. Curiosity
looking underneath the behavior — what is really going on?
how can I better understand my child?
are my expectations reasonable?
8. Collaboration
i am here to guide and co-create our relationship
i don’t know everything, we work together to understand what’s best for you
i listen to you & i learn, i am not perfect, we grow together
9. Letting Go
you are your own person, with unique path, perspective, purpose
you won’t be a child forever and you don’t belong to me
i hold space for your interests, vision, perspective even if i think differently